Anger Management Workshops & Seminars

Over a dozen different workshops and seminars are offered by both Dave Decker, M.A. and Mike Obsatz, Ph.D. Dave's workshops are given at different locations, are generally held from 5:00-7:00 PM on weekday evenings, are intended for men and women (18 years or older), and involve both lecture and experiential learning. There are usually anywhere from four to twenty participants in the workshops. Workbooks and/or handouts will be provided.

Five-Session Anger Management WORKSHOPS


Making Anger Your Ally: Learning To Recognize And Handle The Anger Within and Around You

Offered by Dave Decker, M.A.

This five-session series of workshops (ten hours total) focuses on what anger is, how and where you developed your attitudes and beliefs about anger, and how to identify ways to be more aware of your anger triggers and your escalation process. You will also learn some specific and practical ways to slow down and de-escalate so that you can begin to handle your anger differently when you have the potential to explode or withdraw. Finally, you'll get some ideas about how you can begin to share the anger that you do experience in a more clear, assertive, and respectful way. Read a complete description of Anger Management Workshops.


STAND UP AND BE COUNTED! Learning To Be More Assertive In Your Daily Living

Offered by Dave Decker, M.A.

Do you ever feel like you want to tell people something but you just can't seem to get it out? Do you ever wish you could say "no" when someone asks you to do them a favor? Standing up for yourself, with partners, parents, and others, can really be difficult! We don't
want to hurt or offend others. But it also doesn't feel very good to carry around the resentment and frustration that comes from not saying anything at all.
This five-session workshop (ten hours total) focuses on what assertiveness is and how to make it an ongoing part of your life. It will present ideas and specific strategies that will assist you in speaking up for yourself, in an effective and respectful way, whenever you need to.
In addition, part of the time in the sessions will be spent actually practicing these skills. You don't need to put off learning how to tell people what you think, feel, and want anymore. Give yourself the chance to be different!

Cost for the series is $350 ($650 for couples).


ANGER ON THE HIGHWAYS: Protecting Yourself From Your Own or Others' Road Rage

Offered by Dave Decker, M.A.

Angry and aggressive driving is a fact of life today. Road rage is defined as an extreme form of aggressive driving. It happens everywhere and it is not only dangerous but sometimes it even becomes deadly. Handling yourself and situations around you when you are driving on the roadways is more than just hoping that things will be okay.

This seminar offers practical information and strategies on how to take care of yourself and those you love when other drivers or you yourself become angry. The seminar is a 5-session overview (ten hours in length) of what road rage is, examples of road rage, the different types of road ragers, and how to protect yourself if you encounter anger (in yourself or someone else) when you're driving. The workshop can also help you learn some concrete skills and tools that will assist you in recognizing and handling your own (or other peoples') anger on the highways if this has been an issue for you.

Cost for the series is $350 ($650 for couples).


EMPOWERMENT: Overcoming The Pain From Your Past

Offered by Dave Decker, M.A.

Think back for a moment to your time as a child. For some, childhood memories meant chatter at the dinner table, sitting with our parents as they read stories to us, and playing happily with friends. For others, however, we may remember demeaning lectures when mistakes were made, hostile and abusive arguments between our parents, being ridiculed by peers or siblings, and an almost constant state of feeling self-doubt and insecurity.


These sorts of experiences can lead to toxic shame, which involves an overwhelming belief that you are somehow defective and "never quite measure up." It contributes significantly to all emotional distress in life, including depression, anxiety, verbal and physical abuse of others, compulsive over-eating, alcohol and drug abuse, and a whole host of other unhealthy and demoralizing attitudes and behaviors. Shame leaves you feeling "stuck" and makes it difficult to become who you really want to be.


This five-session series of workshops (ten hours total) defines what shame is and contrasts it with empowerment, a very different belief system based on self-respect and accountability that leads to personal growth and the ability to truly connect with others. It also discusses how shame develops, how it can affect your day-to-day functioning, and what you need to do to overcome its damaging and paralyzing effects. Stop letting the old shaming messages run your life! See how becoming empowered can be helpful and healing for you.

Cost for the series is $350 ($650 for couples).


WHY DON'T THINGS FEEL THE WAY THEY USED TO?: Building And Maintaining A Healthy Relationship

Offered by Dave Decker, M.A.

Relationships with our partner can really be hard! We all too often end up swinging back and forth between being over- involved, controlling, and angry with one another OR being distant, unconnected, and leading "parallel lives." This workshop offers some specific ideas about how to re-connect in a healthy way and how to put more zest back into a relationship that may have become "stale" in the frantic pace of everyday life. Good relationships take a commitment of time and energy, like all the significant part of our lives. Having some guideposts along the way can help make the journey a little less difficult.


This five-session series of workshops (ten hours total) offers an opportunity to assess your compatibility and highlight "trouble spots" with your partner. It focuses on how your current relationship has been affected by your family or origin and the messages you got there about how relationships were supposed to be. It identifies some of the specific ingredients that are necessary to build and maintain and healthy relationship in the present. Finally, you'll get some practical tools that will help you become more assertive with one another, communicate more clearly, and handle conflicts more respectfully and effectively. In addition, you’ll have the opportunity to actually practice new skills in the workshop.

Cost for the series is $350 ($650 for couples).


Additional workshops offered by Dave include:

  • Domestic Abuse: What It Is and How To Intervene
  • Batterers: Who They Are and How To Help Them Change
  • When Violence is Present: Assessment and Treatment Options
  • Please Be Careful: The Warning Signs That You May Be Getting Involved With An Abuser
  • Trust—It's Not Just For Boy Scouts: Learning To Build and Regain Trust in Your Relationships
  • The Tie That Binds: Men’s Friendships With Other Men
  • and others

Contact Dave for more information about any of these workshops and for the specific dates, times, and places they will be held.


Healing Shame

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

(from 90 minutes 3 hours)

Examining the nature of shame, how it is internalized, and the cognitive/emotional/spiritual consequences. How to heal shame.


From Shame-based Masculinity to Wholistic, Healthy Manhood

(from 90 minutes to all day)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

How boys and men are shamed into the masculine norm, and how this can lead to unhealthy behavior, addictions, and violence; how to develop the traits of healthy masculinity—power, passion, purpose, persistence, presence, piety, paternity, perspective, politeness, patience, pardon, pliability, peace-making, and partnership.


Raising Nonviolent Children in a Violent World

(90 minutes to 3 hours)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

Causes of violent behavior in children and adolescents, and how to teach them peace-making and interpersonal skills.


Reaching Healthy Maturity: An Antidote to the Culture of Disrespect

(from 2 to 5 hours)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

This workshop focuses on some of the major problems of contemporary culture—narcissism, addiction, impulsivity, toxic media, immature sexuality, absent parents, materialism, consumerism, unhealthy male and female socialziation messages, hostility, rudeness, and depression. We will discuss 15 ways to help children and adolescents learn how to grow up into mature, compassionate adulthood. Video, discussion, and lecture.


Bullied to Death

(90 minutes to 3 hours)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

Causes of bullying, frequency, types of bullies, effects on victims, and how to create a bully-proof environment.


Coping with Loss and Disappointment

(2 hours)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

The grief process, and how to help others work through their grief.


Marginalized Kids

(2 hours)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.

Who are they? Why don't they fit? How does being marginalized affect them, and others? What can we do about it?


The Spiritual Advantages of Involved Fatherhood

(2 hours)

Offered by Mike Obsatz, Ph.D.