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How Your Life Can Be Different If You Work To Change How You Experience And Express Your Anger

by Dave Decker M.A.

 

An important part of changing any attitude or behavior that is not helpful to us is to clearly identify the very real benefits of actually making this change. You have to be able to visualize “a different you” if what you do with your anger is going to actually be different. Below are some of the reasons that people have given to help motivate themselves to do the hard work of changing this important aspect of themselves. See if they make sense to you and then think about and add some of your own as a way to motivate yourself to do what you need to do to change.  

“What will my life look like and feel like if I make the decision to change how I experience and express my anger?" 

  • I WILL FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF: I WILL EXPERIENCE MORE SELF-ESTEEM, MORE SELF-RESPECT, AND MORE SELF-CONFIDENCE
  • I WILL BE CLOSER TO OTHER PEOPLE AND HAVE MORE MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS
  • I WILL FEEL AS IF I AM A REAL PART OF MY FAMILY
  • I WILL FEEL MORE GENUINE
  • I WILL FEEL CALMER AND MORE RELAXED
  • I WILL FEEL LOVED, SUPPORTED, RESPECTED, AND TRUSTED BY OTHERS
  • I WILL BE MORE LOVING, SUPPORTIVE, RESPECTFUL, AND TRUSTING OF OTHERS
  • I WILL BE LESS STRESSED, TENSE, ANXIOUS, AND DEPRESSED
  • I WILL FEEL LESS FEAR AND ANXIETY
  • I WILL EXPERIENCE LESS GUILT AND REMORSE ABOUT WHAT I HAVE SAID AND DONE
  • I WILL HAVE MORE SELF-CONTROL
  • I WILL BE ABLE TO ACCEPT MORE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND ACTIONS
  • I WILL BE ABLE TO HANDLE PROBLEMS IN MY LIFE AND CONFLICTS WITH OTHERS MORE EFFECTIVELY WHEN THEY DO ARISE
  • I WILL BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY AND EXPRESS MORE OF  WHAT I ACTUALLY THINK, FEEL, WANT, AND NEED
  • I WILL BE MORE ASSERTIVE, OPEN, AND HONEST IN MY INTERACTIONS WITH OTHERS
  • I WILL BE MORE POSITIVE AND DEVELOP MORE POSITIVE “MOMENTUM” IN THE LIVING OF MY LIFE
  • I WILL BE MORE LIKELY TO ENJOY MY LIFE AND MY TIME WITH OTHERS
  • I WILL BE MORE FOCUSED ON THE PRESENT RATHER THAN THE PAST OR THE FUTURE
  • I WILL EXPERIENCE FEWER PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS
  • I WILL EXPERIENCE FEWER NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES AND MORE POSITIVE REWARDS
  • I WILL EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND A STRONGER SENSE OF PERSONAL  POWER IN MY DAY-TO-DAY LIVING
  • I WILL BE MORE HAPPY AND FEEL MORE JOY IN MY LIFE
  • I WILL BE MORE FLEXIBLE AND MORE OPEN TO PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS AROUND ME
  • I WILL BE MORE WILLING TO TAKE INITIATIVE AND TO TAKE MORE POSITIVE RISKS IN MY DAILY LIFE
  • I WILL BE MORE ACCEPTING OF PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS IN MY LIFE AND MORE ABLE TO “LET GO” OF WHAT I CAN’T CONTROL
  • I WILL EXPERIENCE A STRONGER SENSE OF SERENITY AND PEACEFULNESS IN MY LIFE
  • OTHERS ARE MORE LIKELY TO BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH ME
  • OTHERS CAN TRUST ME AND FEEL SAFE AROUND ME
  • MY CHILDREN WON’T END UP HANDLING THEIR ANGER POORLY WHEN THEY GET OLDER

© 1985 David J. Decker, MA, LP
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